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Help Yourself First and Others Will Follow
What if the phrase ‘Nobody is coming to save you’ isn’t entirely true — nor entirely false?
It’s a phrase commonly promoted when topics of self-development and growth are on the table, but I find that the narrative accompanying the promotion of this phrase might be misleading.
Why? Because it promotes the perception that we, as human beings, are selfish and that we don’t care for those in pain around us. It fosters a false view regarding people’s relationships, causing us to lose faith in what a human being is and what the meaning of human relationships is.
I genuinely believe that there are always people around us who praise, respect, or even love us for what we are. Yes, even if we feel we don’t deserve much, there will always be people who value the ray of kindness, humility, or spontaneity that we carry with us.
However, the truth is that you’re the one who chooses the people around you. If you pick your friends or loved ones based on their status or the money they possess, then in case of an emergency, there’s a high possibility they won’t be able to help you.
Why? Because they would not be willing to jeopardise their status or money. And yes, their choice makes perfect sense. Think of it this way: their status and money are the features that attract people to…
